Overview
'I had this happy life one day and the next day it had all fallen to bits. I just completely shattered. I’ve lost this little child and no-one seems to care.'
Deborah struggled with all-consuming grief until one day, she was offered hope and healing.
Podcast
When Dreams Break
15 Min.
Thursday, 14 May 2026
Messages of Hope Podcast
‘I had this happy life one day and the next day it had all fallen to bits. I just completely shattered. I’ve lost this little child and no-one seems to care.’
Deborah’s dreams of being a mother to a happy family were shattered when she suffered a miscarriage and her relationship fell apart. Deborah struggled with all-consuming grief until one day, she was offered hope and healing.
Key Takeaways
- Childhood trauma can shape a person deeply
Deborah’s parents’ divorce, her mother’s mental health struggles, and instability at home left her feeling abandoned, anxious, and emotionally shattered from a young age. - Grief from miscarriage is real and often overlooked
Deborah explains how losing her babies through miscarriage felt like losing real children, yet she felt society minimised her pain because it ‘wasn’t a stillbirth.’ - People often hide pain behind humour or confidence
At school, Deborah tried to appear ‘cool’ and funny while internally feeling ‘inconsolable.’ This highlights how emotional suffering is not always visible. - Support and compassion matter enormously
One of the most healing moments for Deborah was simply a friend putting an arm around her, offering tea, and saying, ‘we care.’ Human kindness helped her feel seen in her grief. - Searching for healing can take many paths
Deborah describes trying many ‘new age’ practices and spending money searching for peace before eventually finding comfort and community through church and counselling. - Faith gave Deborah hope and meaning in suffering
Her belief that her children were ‘with Jesus’ brought her comfort and reduced the intensity of her grief. She describes this as the moment she finally experienced healing and clarity.
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