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You know you have that little voice in your head saying I should be able to manage I should be able to do this this and this all of it together. You know you feel like you should be able to do it all.’

Life can be crazy and chaotic at the best of times, even more so in recent times. Celia, Noel and Richard discuss how we can live each day when the future is so uncertain.

Key takeaways from this episode

  • The pressure to manage everything causes deep stress. Many people feel they must meet everyone’s expectations, juggle multiple responsibilities, and stay in control — leading to exhaustion and anxiety.
  • Control is largely an illusion. Noel shared his realisation that “I’m not God.” Humans can influence some things, but most circumstances are beyond our control. Accepting this truth is the first step to peace.
  • Society fuels the need to control. Cultural expectations and inner voices push people to believe they should be able to handle everything — which only heightens stress and self-criticism.
  • Letting go begins with trust. Recognising that God is already in control — not handing control over, but realising it was never ours to begin with — allows freedom from the constant burden of trying to manage life alone.
  • Prayer brings calm and perspective. Richard shared that when he prays, he finds rest, peace, and clarity — seeing his problems in the right perspective and learning not to “sweat the small stuff”.
  • God is a safe place to unravel. Noel reminded listeners that when life feels chaotic, God offers a space of acceptance, without judgment, where we can fall apart and be restored.
  • Unravelling can be redemptive. Sometimes, when things fall apart, God is working in those moments to teach, heal, or transform us.
  • Rest is found in surrender. Jesus’ invitation, ‘Come to me, all you who labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest,’ reminds us that true peace comes not from control, but from trusting and resting in God’s care.
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