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Most couples go through a stage where that original adrenaline rush of being in love gives way to little frustrations that can slowly build until suddenly you wonder where that first love went. It doesn’t have to be the end though. Stella, a couples counsellor, shares about what it takes to keep a relationship strong, especially after the honeymoon period is over.
Key takeaways from this episode
- Relationship breakdown rarely starts with one big issue — it’s the small daily frustrations that quietly build resentment over time.
Unspoken hurt acts like ‘little bricks,’ gradually forming a wall between partners when feelings aren’t addressed.
Early romance can mask problems, but once that phase fades, unresolved irritations become harder to ignore.
A strong relationship needs four essential foundations: commitment, honesty, trust, and loving kindness.
Commitment means choosing to deal with issues as they arise, rather than avoiding or sweeping them under the carpet.
Honesty is about vulnerability — expressing how you feel rather than blaming or criticising from your head.
Trust grows when people are authentic and stop trying to please at the expense of building resentment.
Loving kindness allows couples to listen with compassion, even in disagreement, creating safety instead of defensiveness.
Vulnerability draws people closer; it’s in brokenness, not ‘having it all together,’ that genuine connection forms.
Even relationships that feel beyond repair can be rebuilt — sometimes falling apart is the first step toward rebuilding stronger foundations.
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Related booklet
One characteristic of healthy relationships is effective communication. However, communication breakdowns are often left undetected until conflicts arise. Because it’s often hard to understand the root causes of conflict, this booklet focuses on how life experiences shape communication patterns and personal conflict style.