Smashing Plates – Part 1

Trauma leaves deep scars. Chris endured severe childhood abuse from his father, including torture, electrocution, and sexual abuse. These memories were repressed for decades but resurfaced later in life, leading to depression, flashbacks, and hospitalisation.

Unresolved pain often erupts in destructive ways. Chris described uncontrollable anger, smashing plates, and feeling consumed by rage. Attempts to suppress trauma only delayed its inevitable resurfacing.

Support for survivors is crucial but often lacking. Chris and Jeff lost friends and family because people didn’t know how to cope with their struggles. Well-meaning but unhelpful advice like “get over it” only made things worse.

Compassionate presence makes a difference. Jeff stressed the importance of simply being with someone in pain—crying with them, sitting with them, even smashing plates with them if needed—without judgement.

Faith was central to Chris’s healing. Through prayer, Bible study, and key supportive people, Chris experienced God’s presence, believing that Jesus took his suffering upon Himself at the cross. This transformed his perspective and gave him strength to rebuild.

Boundaries matter for carers. Chris and Jeff encouraged carers to look after themselves, set healthy boundaries, and keep showing up consistently for those dealing with trauma.

God brings hope and transformation. Chris believes that while free will allows people to commit terrible acts, God never abandons the suffering. Instead, through Jesus’ love, even the most painful experiences can be redeemed and used to comfort and help others.